Trust

When you know that someone loves you, you trust them. If they love you, they want to see you grow and they want the absolute best for you.

I am a pretty protective person. I don't have any younger sisters by birth, but, I've adopted a few. These ladies, along with my siblings, know that I WILL interrogate their prospective suitors if given the chance. Why? I don't want to see them date someone who doesn't deserve their time! I love them! Rachel, who might as well be related to me, let me interview her boyfriend two days after they started dating. Now, I don't know if I would have been able to break them up if I didn't like him (he's awesome), but she trusted me enough to let me talk to him. She values my opinion because she knows how much I care about her. I chatted with Cousin Robyn's man before and after they started dating (he is also awesome) for the same reason. Now, I just want them to get engaged already. Can I put that up on the internet? Our grandmother is going to read this. :)
If I ever enter a relationship, I would talk to my closest friends and mentors about whoever the guy might be. I would want their approval. Why? Because I know how much they love me. Their thoughts have a lot of weight because their love is so obvious. NYC has some really great guys in it. If I have an instant friend-crush, I think "would _____   _______ think that this guy is 'good enough' to date me?" My friends think so highly of me that they would flip out if I settled for less than the greatest guy ever. My mentors have more wisdom and life experience; they see the grander picture.

So, I respect the thoughts of those who love me. When I am secure in someone's love, I trust them enough to follow what they have to say.

Eager obedience follows intimacy. Intimacy is obtained through mutual confidence.

Chew on that for a little while.